View Full Version : Intimacy on the trail
Tallaroo
03-10-2009, 20:34
I know this could apply to hikers of both genders, but I feel more comfortable here. Next year my husband and I are thru-hiking sobo. I'm not sure about the best thing to do regarding post-sex cleanup: dedicated after-sex bandanna, condom and wet-wipes, just refrain between trail towns? Do you find that your libido significantly drops on long-distance hikes?
Thanks for replies, and offering a safe place to ask the question.
Amanda
Mrs Baggins
03-10-2009, 20:40
We were 51 when we started out - married 32 years. By nightfall we were just too damned tired and too damned dirty. There are hotels if you want to get to it. Shower up and then you're clean and ready to go. If our troops in the middle east can get by for days, weeks, months without it, you can get by between town stops.
Condoms and wetwipes are your friend :). Also it's nice for both of you to wash the area with some cold water and a little soap when you get into camp..if there aren't a lot of people around and you can find a spot to do it. Make sure you pee after, you don't want to get an infection out there!
You'll might want to limit it a bit to when you're in town, but I found that my libido wasn't decreased at all unless I did a 20-mile day or it was really freezing cold.
Hikes in Rain
03-10-2009, 21:18
Great resource (http://www.amazon.com/How-Have-Woods-Luann-Colombo/dp/0609804022). :)
Bear in mind that a tent can provide visual privacy, but sounds carry just fine through those nylon walls. Unless you want everyone in the neighborhood to be with you in spirit, tent welllll away from other hikers.
Good point, Marta. Although if you go to Traildays, all bets are off. I heard some things...:D
At Trail Days, who can hear anything over the drums?
Actually, I usually hammock off by myself in a patch of poison ivy (which I'm not allergic to), and sleep like a lamb.
vonfrick
03-10-2009, 22:14
swallow, no mess
camojack
03-10-2009, 23:08
swallow, no mess
HA! I like the way you think, home girl. ;)
Blissful
03-11-2009, 00:48
Nice thing is you're in towns pretty frequently. And several of the hostels even offer private rooms for married couples, but there are motels also. Might want to budget in for more stays in motels, honestly.
A thru hike provides many opportunities. Some sunsets can really be aturn on. When the weather is warm, the moon is right, under the stars can be a real experience, tent or not. You should try it under the stars. Be sure to know your surrounding area. There is alot of areas away from the usual camp sites. Your stealth abilities could be used to the advantage. No place better than on top of a bald. Will not forget on top of Elephant's Back, Yellowstone.
hiking makes me horny and sex in the woods is awesome. just take a bandana. no different than using a towel at home. but mindi's right - be clean about it.
Gray Blazer
03-11-2009, 15:00
hiking makes me horny and sex in the woods is awesome. just take a bandana. no different than using a towel at home. but mindi's right - be clean about it.
I know this is the women's forum and all that, but, I just want you to know I'm on my way to taking a cold shower.
curtisvowen
03-11-2009, 15:31
The Sound Of Music, the Sound of Sex....
Did a trip thru the Smokys as 13 yr. old, and my neigbors in a tent were having sex.
Being the young man that I was, I didn't have a clue. "What's that sound"?....As an older man, now I know! But it's something I'll never forget....thanks!
It's the mans job to do the clean up.
We did it in Mahoosuc Notch on our Sobo 2008 hike. If there is a will there is a way. Have fun!
Sorry to intrude but I had to respond
Going North in Vermont you will crosss Big Branch stream. Once across the bridge the AT goes to the left and to the right are a couple good camping spots. In the steream by the camping spots is a huge flat rock sticking out of the water. Enjoy!!
Blissful
03-11-2009, 16:30
We did it in Mahoosuc Notch on our Sobo 2008 hike.
wow.
that's all I can say.:sun
It's the mans job to do the clean up.
really? Im sure I dont know as much as my wife about the proper technique for cleanliness, specially in the woods.
Had fun as a teenager one weekend camping in N. GA mountains and the gfriend at the time didnt take proper care after the fact and I knew nothing about UTI's and infections. Nasty stuff and rule of mine now is too not play hanky panky with dirty hand and dirty...... If I ever to manage a thru Im sure the thought would cross my mind. ;) happy hunting
timebreaks
03-11-2009, 19:51
Great resource (http://www.amazon.com/How-Have-Woods-Luann-Colombo/dp/0609804022). :)
That's AWESOME! :D
swallow, no mess
Dude... that's funny right there. I don't care who you are:D
camojack
03-11-2009, 23:05
Dude... that's funny right there. I don't care who you are:D
Apparently not if I say it is, it's not... :o
sarahgirl
03-12-2009, 03:51
I saw that book at half-price books! I always regreted buying it. We are such creative little creatures.
What!! Haven't any of you seen Friday the 13th!?!?! If you do it in the woods Jason comes out of nowhere and machetes you to death!!!
Never posted in the ladies forum, but saw the thread title and thought I'd weigh in.
My sex drive seems about the same or stronger whilst hiking, probably stronger when with my gal. Something about seeing her in trail runners and little hiking shorts with her tush swaying sensuously from side to side as she hikes... :-? Although I'm a young guy, so there's probably not much you could do to discourage my libido.
Besides, trail sex is great, don't limit yourself! We did the JMT together last year and it was a lot of fun to find some quiet little nook well off the trail in a beautiful alpine meadow or something. Some of the nicer camps/views we've discovered were found when scouting for a love makin' spot.
Anyway, I'd highly reccomend Wet Ones or other antibacterial wipes for a clean-up before and after. (Before to reduce chances of a UTI or similar condition due to unsanitary body parts.) Easy to pack out along with other garbage. A quick water rinse followed by the wipes seems to work best.
I might also add that if one of you carries a foam sleeping pad, they're easier to clean than an inflatable.
Nicksaari
03-12-2009, 20:27
this is the first "female hikers forum" thread ive actually read.
obviously
is good sex capable in the woods, perhaps with a view?
what if some person just showed up, wouldn't that be awkward? and shady! i couldn't focus
Pokey2006
03-13-2009, 00:51
I will say, I think Bleach, for one, was respectful and actually provided information the original poster was looking for. It's not the worst thing in the world, having men post in the women-only forum. But you guys really need to use some common sense. Note that the original poster is new to WB. Also note that she mentioned -- twice -- wanting to post specifically in the women's forum because she felt more comfortable here. Under the circumstances, it is HIGHLY inappropriate to make posts about needing cold showers and whatnot. The next time you boys get all upset about women not wanting you to post here, please remember that posts like that are the reason why.
mkmangold
03-13-2009, 01:24
I will say, I think Bleach, for one, was respectful and actually provided information the original poster was looking for. It's not the worst thing in the world, having men post in the women-only forum. But you guys really need to use some common sense. Note that the original poster is new to WB. Also note that she mentioned -- twice -- wanting to post specifically in the women's forum because she felt more comfortable here. Under the circumstances, it is HIGHLY inappropriate to make posts about needing cold showers and whatnot. The next time you boys get all upset about women not wanting you to post here, please remember that posts like that are the reason why.
I disagree. It takes two to tango and maybe men DO have worthwhile things to say, despite the prejudice against them. My wife has interesting observations about sex in nature but since I enter this site under my profile, she felt disinterested to do so. Perhaps a little more inclusivity might benefit everyone.
Pokey2006
03-13-2009, 01:28
I disagree. It takes two to tango and maybe men DO have worthwhile things to say, despite the prejudice against them. My wife has interesting observations about sex in nature but since I enter this site under my profile, she felt disinterested to do so. Perhaps a little more inclusivity might benefit everyone.
Re-read my post. I didn't say men shouldn't comment here. I said that men should use their brains about what kind of comments they make in a forum that is clearly marked "women only." I said that comments like Bleach's add to the conversation, while comments about "needing a cold shower" are highly inappropriate.
Thank you, Pokey.
I am no prude. I teach a unit on sexuality to high school students. The topic CAN be handled in a straight forward, informative manner. Lurid, titillating remarks have no place.
Some folks are comfortable with both genders chiming in on this subject. Others are not. As Pokey has pointed out, the OP stated her reason for posting here--her comfort.
Frau
warraghiyagey
03-13-2009, 09:56
Re-read my post. I didn't say men shouldn't comment here. I said that men should use their brains about what kind of comments they make in a forum that is clearly marked "women only." I said that comments like Bleach's add to the conversation, while comments about "needing a cold shower" are highly inappropriate.
I would go along with that. . . pictures of confused puppies though, who can resist:p:):sun
Turtlehiker
03-13-2009, 10:02
Don't you all know that saying "women only" is like a magnet drawing guys in here! It is like setting a plate of cookies in front of a kindergarten class and saying "don't look at these and don't even think about eating one".
Lone Wolf
03-13-2009, 10:30
what a dumb thread.
ishmael86
03-13-2009, 12:14
At any rate--I find that my libido is just fine on the trail. Working out and being active is always good for my sex drive, as long as I'm not overworking myself or spending lots of time hungry or cold or something like that. If you're enjoying yourself hiking I think you won't need to worry about your libido suffering.
And I'll echo what everyone else has said about trail cleanliness : o )
Bulldawg
03-17-2009, 08:18
Intrusion!
http://www.whiteblaze.net/forum/images/icons/icon1.gif Welcome to the Female Hiking Forum.
The purpose of this forum is for all females to ask questions and gather information from each other.
Currently this is an open forum. So with that in mind, if you are a male reading this, please refrain from making rude, crude or otherwise distracting posts here.
Any poster that gets out of line will be warned either on the thread or via private message. If the behavior continues the poster will be banned from posting in this forum permanently.
I will say, I think Bleach, for one, was respectful and actually provided information the original poster was looking for. It's not the worst thing in the world, having men post in the women-only forum. But you guys really need to use some common sense. Note that the original poster is new to WB. Also note that she mentioned -- twice -- wanting to post specifically in the women's forum because she felt more comfortable here. Under the circumstances, it is HIGHLY inappropriate to make posts about needing cold showers and whatnot. The next time you boys get all upset about women not wanting you to post here, please remember that posts like that are the reason why.
it's posts like this that make me not want to visit whiteblaze at all. who are you to speak for others? it is clearly stated that men may post to the female hiking forum as long as nothing is out of line. out of line to you may not be out of line for others. grow a sense of humor and lighten up.
EQUAL RIGHTS!!!!!!!!!!!!
max patch
03-17-2009, 12:30
Womens only ought to be for women only. Period.
I bet if offenders were placed on a one week, no posting time out period, the problem would be solved.
dixicritter
03-17-2009, 12:33
The rules for this forum can be found here... Welcome to the Female Hiking Forum. (http://www.whiteblaze.net/forum/showthread.php?t=12432)
The purpose of this forum is for all females to ask questions and gather information from each other.
Currently this is an open forum. So with that in mind, if you are a male reading this, please refrain from making rude, crude or otherwise distracting posts here.
Any poster that gets out of line will be warned either on the thread or via private message. If the behavior continues the poster will be banned from posting in this forum permanently.
Says nothing about men not posting at all as you can see. :)
[quote=max patch;8030I bet if offenders were placed on a one week, no posting time out period, the problem would be solved.[/quote]
nah, it wouldn't hurt my feelings at all. just fuel to the fire.
Bulldawg
03-17-2009, 12:41
Hmmmm, I got deleted earlier for saying the same thing Dixi said.
What if I want to come to the female forums to ask a question about taking my wife or daughter backpacking? What if I had a question concerning buying their equipment? Since neither my wife or daughter are members here, they surely cannot ask that question. Banning men is not the answer. That would only be fuel to the fire. The answer is allowing men to post in a forum, respectfully as stated in the rules for the forum. Not censoring everything men say with the reason being "intrusion". Continuing to censor all the male comments will only add fuel to the fire and make it worse. Most of men can keep it within guidelines. And for crissakes, it's only walking, stop taking it so darned serious!!
Womens only ought to be for women only. Period.
.
You said period in the women's forum. We so don't want to go there. ;)
Actually, I find intimacy on the trail to be an oxymoron, like happily married or fun run..and I ain't goin' there either. :)
4eyedbuzzard
03-17-2009, 14:11
The rules for this forum can be found here... Welcome to the Female Hiking Forum. (http://www.whiteblaze.net/forum/showthread.php?t=12432)
Says nothing about men not posting at all as you can see. :)
Dixie, perhaps admin could change the header that appears at the top of the page to more accurately reflect the forum policy? It currently states:
http://www.whiteblaze.net/forum/imagefiles/femalesign.gifFemale Hiking forums This is for female hikers only to discuss female issues
dixicritter
03-17-2009, 14:18
Dixie, perhaps admin could change the header that appears at the top of the page to more accurately reflect the forum policy? It currently states:
http://www.whiteblaze.net/forum/imagefiles/femalesign.gifFemale Hiking forums This is for female hikers only to discuss female issues
That has been that way since attroll set up the forum in 2005. Probably would be a good idea to take out the word "only" since men have never been kept out of this forum completely. This has never been a private forum since day one.
you know what? the fact that this is even a discussion is retarded. yes, i said retarded. it may be a women's forum for women's issues, but it's on the internet. the INTERNET, people. it's public. very very public. if you want an answer to a female question that you don't want everyone on here to see, then read through some of the forum topics, pick a female hiker or two who seems like they know what the hell they are talking about when it comes to actual hiking, and send them a pm.
it should be absolutely COMMON SENSE that this forum is, in fact, NOT PRIVATE. if you want privacy, start your own forum and police it yourself.
granted, men should think before they post here, but they're gonna post whether you like it or not. deal and move on.
I'm a man and I would never post here.
oops
I'm a man and I would never post here.
oops
i believe you. :D
Kathfishes
03-17-2009, 20:14
Ok girls...what I've learned is simple. Hiking is an emotional, physicial, sprititual, and mental experience. If and when the spirit moves you to engage in activity..go for it. It maybe just the lift you need after a rough day or celebration of beauty and joining in with nature.
Nature is around us and in us and we go with the flow. A couple of baby wipes will do the trick for immediate clean up, followed by a quick wash with a soap up at potty call (again use a wipe for a wash cloth). As always becareful to rinse well with filtered water to prevent irritaion. I leave those "femmine" hygine products home. I discovered long ago they actually cause more problems. Nature made us in perfect harmony and "self - cleaning" if not interfered with.
As to the wise cracking YOUNGsters...ignore him.. He'll go away..Just like the class clown.. There are men who do have good advice and if they respectfully chime in in..fine. I value thier experience and information. I once had an "OLD" BSA leader whho told me "women don't belong hiking and camping" Whata do when you gotta "go"?" My reply.." YOU sir, pee on a tree..ever hear of a bird in the bush!" 25 yrs later I not only had earned his respect, taught HIM a thing or two :-) and earned my Wood Badge. Not only did he do the presentation then, but he is now my great supporter in my dream of thru hiking... I hope we don't throw the baby out with the bathwater! We can educate the crude, rude, socially unacceptable person, by our graciouness that we ladies are known for, :-)
Kathfishes
vonfrick
03-17-2009, 20:45
you know what? the fact that this is even a discussion is retarded. yes, i said retarded. it may be a women's forum for women's issues, but it's on the internet. the INTERNET, people. it's public. very very public. if you want an answer to a female question that you don't want everyone on here to see, then read through some of the forum topics, pick a female hiker or two who seems like they know what the hell they are talking about when it comes to actual hiking, and send them a pm.
it should be absolutely COMMON SENSE that this forum is, in fact, NOT PRIVATE. if you want privacy, start your own forum and police it yourself.
granted, men should think before they post here, but they're gonna post whether you like it or not. deal and move on.
exactly.
vonfrick
03-17-2009, 20:45
oh and...swallow
Kathfishes
03-17-2009, 21:24
New here but Ya know all this over only ONE reply on this thread I found really inapproiate...and that by a 54 yr old who should know better! I'm sure there's been others in the past but is it really worth all the fussing? If the mod see one: delete the darn thing..send an pm telling em' an apology is in order and moderate they're posts for a while.. AND keep women as the moderators for this.
Just my $.05 (inflation)
Kathfishes
vonfrick
03-17-2009, 21:27
New here but Ya know all this over only ONE reply on this thread I found really inapproiate...and that by a 54 yr old who should know better!
well i guess we're all in agreement then that all i'm offering is sound, trail-tested advice on how to stay clean from one woman to another. ntm, it's a great way to get him to carry some o your stuff!!:p
Kathfishes
03-17-2009, 21:35
I stand corrected ..TWO
dixicritter
03-17-2009, 21:41
Well you could always just bring bob. Just be sure you use lithium batteries because they last longer and work better in cold temps.
vonfrick
03-17-2009, 21:56
Well you could always just bring bob. Just be sure you use lithium batteries because they last longer and work better in cold temps.
smilin' bob? yeah. he always likes to come. good thinkin' dixi
i heard they have a solar charger now, like the kind the kids use for ipods instead of the batteries tho.
dixicritter
03-17-2009, 22:02
smilin' bob? yeah. he always likes to come. good thinkin' dixi
i heard they have a solar charger now, like the kind the kids use for ipods instead of the batteries tho.
Excellent advice. Batteries can get expensive. This would work well for those single ladies on the trail that might need to "take care of business" and not want to just look for a hook up.
vonfrick
03-17-2009, 22:23
Excellent advice. Batteries can get expensive. This would work well for those single ladies on the trail that might need to "take care of business" and not want to just look for a hook up.
very true, especially the guy on the other thread who has crabs
http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-sick015.gif (http://www.freesmileys.org)
i heard they have a solar charger now, like the kind the kids use for ipods instead of the batteries tho.
You really should wait till after dark. :p
vonfrick
03-17-2009, 22:45
You really should wait till after dark. :p
i got tired of telling the other hikers in the shelters that i brought an electric toothbrush
sheepdog
03-17-2009, 22:49
...........
Trailbender
03-24-2009, 09:40
wouldn't know, I'm 29 and haven't had sex yet.
Y'know, I've tried using those darn ez-wipes or whatever they're called and they always leave me moist in the nether regions-not terrible at home but sure to cause monkeybutt out in the field!
IF I can ever get my city-boy hubby to go backpacking with me, I'll probably end up jumping him (full moons are a turn on for me-and no I don't have furry ears and a tail!). LOL. Not entirely sure what to do afterwards though, as again, even at home I end up with "surprise moist" between 10 and 45 minutes after doing it. o.o I suppose using a condom will help with that, though he won't like that one bit! X3 It'd be a bit of a downer if I got pregnant and had to stop a thru hike! LMAO
Bulldawg
04-03-2009, 16:51
Y'know, I've tried using those darn ez-wipes or whatever they're called and they always leave me moist in the nether regions-not terrible at home but sure to cause monkeybutt out in the field!
IF I can ever get my city-boy hubby to go backpacking with me, I'll probably end up jumping him (full moons are a turn on for me-and no I don't have furry ears and a tail!). LOL. Not entirely sure what to do afterwards though, as again, even at home I end up with "surprise moist" between 10 and 45 minutes after doing it. o.o I suppose using a condom will help with that, though he won't like that one bit! X3 It'd be a bit of a downer if I got pregnant and had to stop a thru hike! LMAO
Easy, tell Hubby to use the Delta method.:rolleyes::D
Easy, tell Hubby to use the Delta method.:rolleyes::D
What is that?
Bootstrap
04-03-2009, 18:59
What is that?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delta_method
In statistics (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Statistics), the delta method is a method for deriving an approximate probability distribution (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Probability_distribution) for a function (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Function_%28mathematics%29) of an asymptotically normal (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Estimator#Asymptotic_normality) statistical estimator (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Estimator) from knowledge of the limiting variance (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Variance) of that estimator. More broadly, the delta method may be considered a fairly general central limit theorem (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Central_limit_theorem).
I can only presume it makes the guy lose interest, so you don't have to figure out how to deal with intimacy on the trail ....
Jonathan
saimyoji
04-03-2009, 20:04
i thought it meant to swallow....:-?
i thought it meant to swallow....:-?
That'll work too
Bootstrap
04-03-2009, 21:30
i thought it meant to swallow....:-?
Obviously, that must have been what I was trying to say.
Jonathan
(I've never heard it called that - where does the term come from?)
Bulldawg
04-03-2009, 21:30
What is that?
The Delta Method means that the male "always leaves the gate on time"!!
Bootstrap
04-03-2009, 21:45
The Delta Method means that the male "always leaves the gate on time"!!
Obviously, the term was invented by someone who has never flown with the airline ....
Jonathan
The Delta Method probably works on the trail about as well as the airline does
Bulldawg
04-03-2009, 22:50
Obviously, the term was invented by someone who has never flown with the airline ....
Jonathan
The Delta Method probably works on the trail about as well as the airline does
Good Lord, it is a saying. Why do we always have to over analyze everything here??:rolleyes::confused:
Bootstrap
04-03-2009, 23:58
Good Lord, it is a saying. Why do we always have to over analyze everything here??:rolleyes::confused:
I wonder what he means by that?
Jonathan
warraghiyagey
04-04-2009, 00:10
I wonder what he means by that?
Jonathan
:D:p
warraghiyagey
04-04-2009, 00:14
http://tbn2.google.com/images?q=tbn:-4rC1-wE2uoOsM:http://danielsproperties.com/blog/Tikaani_COSnow_122007.JPG (http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://danielsproperties.com/blog/Tikaani_COSnow_122007.JPG&imgrefurl=http://danielsproperties.com/blog/&usg=__mmsx0I1lUmxsHVp8p4auBssBc-M=&h=1844&w=1656&sz=1035&hl=en&start=427&um=1&tbnid=-4rC1-wE2uoOsM:&tbnh=150&tbnw=135&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dconfused%2Bdog%26gbv%3D2%26ndsp%3D20% 26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26start%3D420%26um%3D1)
EverydayJourneyman
04-05-2009, 11:49
I find it interesting that a great number of AT questions posed to me by people are sexual in nature, including my girlfriend.
I tried to reassure her that I highly doubt there are single hikers looking to hook up along the AT. It doesn't even seem like practical behaviour.