I agree with and have seen much of what you say, but you might be overlooking a important point for some of us. Maybe we are HAPPY to be ALIVE and honoring friends we had that did not come home alive from where ever they may have served. Be it Viet-Nam like me, or Germany, etc. I personally believe I have an obligation to be as HAPPY as possible in honor of those that I lost.
Now the screwing we get from the DVA is a whole other topic....