It's not sad, it is being honest about human nature. If you are not prepared to defend yourself in a situation like that, you are going to die, plain and simple.
I don't see how being prepared to defend yourself is living in fear, it is being practical. I don't live in fear because I am not worried about it. I carry a fire extinguisher and a first aid it in my car, not because I expect to use them, they are insurance, just like training and carrying a handgun.