Selfish, is not necessarily a bad thing, but lets call it what it is. By it's own definition it's Self and ish, if your going...there's the self, and if your a lone....there's the ish.
or somethin like that, pretty close tho, eh!
I am sure this is an interesting read for the OP. It doesn't take Doctor Phil to see where people's hearts and goals are at. I would suggest this: If you want to know how to do a thru hike, pick the brains of someone who has done it, not people who have read books on it only. If you want to know how to have a successful marriage, talk to people who are happy in their marriage after decades of marriage, not people who have been married for a few years. It is just a matter of what you want. You want to be the tough guy and tell her what is what and find someone new if she doesn't like it, you will get your wish. You want to be alone, that is fine too. This is a free country. I, personally, think a happy lasting marriage is the best thing a man can ever hope to acquire. I have one. It takes work. I takes selflessness. I can understand people that don't have one. I can understand the bitterness, frustration, and denial. You don't have to go my way. I am not saying my way is the only way. That would be ridiculous. I am saying that I have a happy and successful and lasting marriage. I have done it and am doing it. You want what I have? Talk to someone like me. You don't want what I have? Well keep hanging out with the tough guys. You will feel good about yourself... for a few years.
I have said enough on this thread though. For what it is worth mountainman, you are on my prayer list. I believe you deserve this hike. I believe you can find and will find that compromise, if you love your wife and she loves you.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. - Abraham Lincoln
Marriage is team sport. How many teams win in the long run when the individual players call their own plays?
BB- he does love his wife.. the OP said it earlier. He's only got a few more miles till he finishes the entire trail. He just was saying he wishes he could have done the miles differently, that's all.
I'm the Doctor Phil wanna be on this site My mind is constantly reading peeps and trying to understand where they are coming from. ;P You share from your heart and that's why we love ya, BB.
Love it bfayer...it's a team sport for sure.
Isnt marriage about helping each other? What about helping and supporting each others goals, maybe even if you dont agree with them or want to be a part of them?
Instead of your wife giving you a guilt trip, perhaps she should trying being alittle more supportive imo.
I agree. He loves his wife. He was also getting bad advice. My pointed remarks were directed at them not him. He deserves this hike. If he does it against her will, he is selfish. If she does not let him go, she is selfish. It is what it is. Just hoping for a non-selfish result.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. - Abraham Lincoln
should of gotten a "Thru Hike Prenup"
I'm so confused, I'm not sure if I lost my horse or found a rope.
I agree with ya, BB. It's called hitting a brick wall. It's the point in the marriage when you have to dig deep. I think we've all been there after this many years of marriage. (32 yrs. for me) It's rewarding when you work it all out & find peace. There's no reason why you can't find peace, but it's hard work, at some points. You have to be with someone that's committed & willing to get in the trenches with you. Then, other times it's a walk in the park. I like those times the BEST!
And once again, I agree with LW. Sorry LW, but I may be developing a bad reputation for you. Guilty by association.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. - Abraham Lincoln
What was the question ????
"Life's Journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, smoldering and totally worn out, shouting...Holy S*#t...what a ride"