Is it selfish for married person to do thur-hike?

[mountainman]

My wife thinks it is selfish for a married person to want to do a thur-hike. I have done 1930 mi. so for hiking no more than a week at a time. This has to be the hardest way to do the AT. Anyone else been told this is selfish?

[Lone Wolf]

well it is selfish. it's all about you and nobody else

[Fur Queue]

Wouldn't it be selfish to deny someone their dream?

[Hosaphone]

Wouldn't it be selfish to deny someone their dream?

I was about to say that. Technically, I think you're both being selfish.

[Rasty]

Unanswerable question.

[Stir Fry]

My wife tells me all the time that its selfish. Ther is nothing that would make her leave me for 6 mo. She tried to hike but does not like it. She has gotten used to the week and two week hikes, but hates the idea of a thru-hike.
I have an out though. I told her before I asked her to marry me that I was going to do a thru-hike in 2014. She said she thought I would give up on the idea before 2014 actualy got here. I ask hows that working for you? She give me a dirty look. In the end its going to be harder on me then her, but I cant let her know that. I have planned for her to visit about every 4-5 weeks and that should help. Good cel phone to call on each night will help too.

[Datto]

I was told a thru-hike of the Appalachian Trail was selfish, crazy, nuts, dumb, irreverent, scary and downright expensive.

I went ahead and thru-hiked the Appalachian Trail anyhow.

One of the best things I've ever done in my short life.

If you ask a person who has thru-hiked the Appalachian Trail, they'll tell you they can't imagine having spent the time doing anything else.

What other challenge can you undertake where someone who has succeeded would say they wouldn't have have chosen to do anything else?


Datto

[SCRUB HIKER]

Doing anything for six months that you and only you are deriving enjoyment from is selfishness. But it's the type of selfishness that's worth indulging in if you're going to be a happy person. I encourage it in myself and others. My girlfriend, whom I live with, encourages it too, because she knows it makes me very happy; I'm glad to have her.

[Lone Wolf]

Wouldn't it be selfish to deny someone their dream?

shoulda taken a six month vacation before gettin' married

[rocketsocks]

Ezra Johnson is right....it's a wee bit selfish, surely you see this.

[Fur Queue]

shoulda taken a six month vacation before gettin' married

You think that being married stops new dreams and visions....or that being married means you should stop having new dreams and visions?

[WingedMonkey]

What are you gonna do? Tell your wife that a bunch of people on the internet said it wasn't?

[Lone Wolf]

You think that being married stops new dreams and visions....or that being married means you should stop having new dreams and visions?

never mind you don't get it....

[johnnybgood]

Only each married couple can define this answer. Good marriages respect each others goals in life and can work together to accomplish them.

[Sly]

Wouldn't it be selfish to deny someone their dream?

That's my opinion.

I was about to say that. Technically, I think you're both being selfish.

Not if you're both OK with the idea.

[Hot Flash]

If she thinks it's selfish, then for her, it is. Personally, if I couldn't go with my man on a long through hike for whatever reason, I would absolutely be the cheering team from the sidelines and support him in whatever manner I could. He would do the same for me, and neither of us would think there was anything selfish about it. But that's me, and that's my relationship. Your mileage may vary.

[rocketsocks]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3NaQxUEfxt0

just as ridiculous as this thread has the potential to be.....but I'll subscribe.

[Colter]

never mind you don't get it....

Perhaps he gets it and just doesn't agree with you.

There are times when it's good to look out for your own happiness. Often people who accept martyrdom ultimately make themselves and everyone around them unhappy.

On the other hand sometimes there's the way things should be and the way things are. I'm sure there are some otherwise good relationships that would be destroyed by one half of it leaving for a thru-hike, regardless of "what's right."

[BFI]

Yup it’s selfish and it’s a wonderful adventure into the woods and yourself. It will probably change you for the better, in my opinion. I was told by my father that there are two kinds of people; Those that stay at home and Those that don't. You only have one life to live, make the most of it whatever your decision is.

[colorado_rob]

Yup it’s selfish and it’s a wonderful adventure into the woods and yourself. It will probably change you for the better, in my opinion. I was told by my father that there are two kinds of people; Those that stay at home and Those that don't. You only have one life to live, make the most of it whatever your decision is.

Yeah, +1, well said.

My own answer to the OP: Yes, it's selfish. Is this a good thing? YES. Check out what Ayn Rand has to say about it sometime:

http://www.aynrand.org/site/PageServ...of_selfishness