does this need to be talked about again and again
does this need to be talked about again and again
Conquest: It is not the Mountain we conquer but Ourselves
Well Weasel there was a thread in the women's forum that this thread started from. The guys started posting there, so instead of letting them take over that thread (as has happened in the recent past) I coppied this one over here to let the guys beat the horse while leaving the women's thread alone. I figured if guys were going to try and post somewhere anyway, may as well let them do it here and let them have their say. I know you haven't been around for a while (welcome back again BTW ) but this topic has been brought up a few times by women and ends up with discussions about hot dogs and women's anatomy. The point of starting this thread was to get that away from the original thread so the guys don't go there again - at least not on that version of the thread.
But I know you are trying to do the right thing - just like I was trying to do. We just missed the same starting point time and place
SGT Rock
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being properly respectful I know better than to post the following suggestion over in the women's forum:
one way to get rid of a guy who is bothering you on the trail - carry a sharp straight razor and tell the guy that the razor's name is Lorraine
"i thought i'd be out of place on the trail, seeing as how i'm a nun, but i'm really having a good time."
dissent is the highest form of patriotism.
(howard zinn)
I started to think this whole concept was annoying because there are also enough annoying cloying women out there to sink a ship (ask any guy who has ever worked in the bar or nightclub about all the barflies), but then I thought about funny lines that would make me (or any normal guy) run for the hills:
I have this thick white discharge.....
I don't pluck those inch-long hairs around my nipples
I quit having sex 14 years ago and when I realized how disgusting it was
I slept around a lot and picked up a couple of STDs in my younger days, but they are now all under control.
I spent 8 months in prison in Georgia for stabbing my old boyfriend while he was sleeping one night because the prick smiled at another woman.
I find Loretta Bobbitt to be a courageous trendsetter.
.....Someday, like many others who joined WB in the early years, I may dry up and dissapear....
"I wonder if anyone else has an ear so tuned and sharpened as I have, to detect the music, not of the spheres, but of earth, subtleties of major and minor chord that the wind strikes upon the tree branches. Have you ever heard the earth breathe... ?"
- Kate Chopin
Hi, my name is Lorena Bobbit and I'm so happy to finally be out of jail. Can I borrow your scissors?
the sort of thing you tend to take a person's word for... You don't want to verify it personally...
Hammock Hanger -- Life is my journey and I'm surely not rushing to the "summit"...:D
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Now personally, I like to hike with another person, but it isn't the be all end all of me getting out on the trail. I am slowly getting my wife into it...but she hasn't been on any extended hikes yet. This past summer I hiked with a gal who wanted to get out for her first long hike. She had posted here and I knew the floodgates would open of offers from guys offering to hike with her. I simply sent her a PM and told her where I was hiking and told her she was more than welcome and that my wife would vouch for me that I wasn't some creep. Anyways, after that I left it up to her, she later said she asked some of the gals around here about me...Uh-oh! Anyways, it allowed her to decide in her own way and we went and hiked this summer, and had a great hike...that had absolutely nothing to do with "hooking up".
I would never push myself on another woman...for one, my wife would kill me, and two, it isn't why I am out there to hike. I was looking for someone to hike with and it just happened to be a gal. I will say this I do agree that some guys on the trail are complete dicks when it comes to gals on the trail and their desire to "get some". I saw it this summer when some guys were drooling over a girl. I don't know maybe I have never understood desperation. If a girl likes you, she'll let you know, and trust me she will already know you find her attractive. Let her make the move, and gals if the guy keeps coming on...tell him you just got out of a long relationship and you aren't interested in hooking up for a LOOOONGGG time! You could even work it into a conversation. If he still doesn't get the hint, just say I'm out here to hike my own hike and I just want some peace and solitude for awhile....and if he still doesn't get it...Tell him to ***** off!!!
Walking Dead Bear
Formerly the Hiker Known as Almost There
One method could be to start mooching from him. Have him pay for stuff in town, eat his food (the good stuff), smoke all his cigarettes or whatever he's smoking, etc. etc. Even if he doesn't leave you alone you can eventually break his bank and he'll have to get off the trail and back to work. Then you can have a great time with all the money you've saved.
I feel what you're saying, but I think its not really valid for men to be concerned with it. There's a ton a reasons why I think women need to be able to talk with other women, and I think women need a forum that is more like what they experience in real life, especially with being such a minority on the AT.
However, getting back to the original question, I think a woman gets rid of a man on the AT by trusting in other men to help, which perhaps is really the point that Tinker is trying to get to. As many here have said, a woman does need to communicate as literally as possible so that a man is clear on her intentions, but I think us men are writing ourselves off as dumbasses a little too quickly.
If a woman is 'communicating' to a man to leave her alone, and he's not doing that, then this is a problem man. He may not be a rapist, but he can certainly ruin a hike all the same. A woman should elicit the assistance of other men to become involved in whatever way is needed to remedy the situation, and one of the reasons I appreciate this thread staying out here, is that men need to be aware of the issues women may have on the trail and know that they may be counted upon to help.
Last edited by SGT Rock; 10-25-2006 at 09:59.
"I wonder if anyone else has an ear so tuned and sharpened as I have, to detect the music, not of the spheres, but of earth, subtleties of major and minor chord that the wind strikes upon the tree branches. Have you ever heard the earth breathe... ?"
- Kate Chopin
"I wonder if anyone else has an ear so tuned and sharpened as I have, to detect the music, not of the spheres, but of earth, subtleties of major and minor chord that the wind strikes upon the tree branches. Have you ever heard the earth breathe... ?"
- Kate Chopin
I think this is a great idea! Provided that he's been directly told, "I'm not interested!", the door is then open for the woman to bust the bank of any moron who can't take a hint. Turn on the charm. Make him pay for everything. Have him carry some of your gear weight. Mooch his food. He'll either run out of money or walk away when the dummy realizes this girl's going to cost him a fortune. I have no sympathy for idiots who don't know how to appropriately interact with the opposite sex. So ladies, give them a clear warning, and if that doesn't work, leave them penniless in some town while you continue merrily up the trail.
"Don't worry...even if things end up a bit too heavy...we'll all float on... all right."- Modest Mouse