wish my girlfriend was into hiking!!!
My girlfriend is not into hiking, especially long distances. Its becoming a problem cause all my vaca's are for hiking and not with her. anyone run into this prob.????
Yeah,ME!!! She's gone now and I get to hike more...Originally Posted by PUNKINPUSS11
God, I'm going to miss her.....
But then again, maybe not!!!
Graywolf
"So what if theres a mountain, get over it!!!" - Graywolf, 2010
Start her out on day hikes, then progress to overnights then weekends and so one. Think baby steps one bit at a time.
I've had years of experience at this particular problem.
Discuss this with her and come to a compromise where she is a partner in your hiking plans without her ever stepping foot on the trail.
Have her drop you off at the trailhead and plan a mid hike get together where you both can enjoy each others company, i.e. a scenic place for a picnic or a night at a B&B not far from the trail.
Make plans during the year for trips that she wants to take that make her a happy camper and after a while maybe she'll take an interest in hiking.
My wife is not into hiking either but she will drop me off at a trail for a few days or a week and meet me along the trail when she gets her next day off from work . Last year I sectioned for a week and we had a vacation together for a week in New York City .
It's all good and everyones satisfied.
Getting lost is a way to find yourself.
My fiancee and I have been together 4 1/2 years and its yet to cause a problem. We've tried all sorts of hiking, from overnights to day hikes to (ugh) car camping with all the amenities of home. She simply does not like outdoor activities. However she does like going to the spa and going shopping and all things girly, which of course I abhor. When I go off on trips she busies herself with the girly things and we're both happy.
Lots of single women who like to hike,maybe a time for alittle change in your dating life??????
"I told my Ma's and Pa's I was coming to them mountains and they acted as if they was gutshot. Ma, I sez's, them mountains is the marrow of the world and by God, I was right". Del Gue
Yea that's what I was going to say. If you married now, that's another story. Got to try and make that work.
Women usually wait until you're married to not like your hobbies.
Con men understand that their job is not to use facts to convince skeptics but to use words to help the gullible to believe what they want to believe - Thomas Sowell
So very true. Still has a way of working out though.
Any woman to sorry to hike will likely die fat...or rail thin in a nursing home. GET OFF YOUR A$$!
Once you are married you can leave 'em home.
Until then, take them with you or all bets are off.
Very unlikely you will change her. Your three options are:
1. Change girlfriends
2. Quit hiking, and do what she likes.
3. Accept the fact that you have different recreational hobbies, and live with the fact that you will be doing these things solo.
Oh, BTW only morons follow relationship advice given freely on WB.
ouch! that's brutal! i bet you're real popular with the ladies!
"You do more hiking with your head than your feet!" Emma "Grandma" Gatewood...HYOY!!!
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Uh oh, looks like I could be in trouble. Is this something a bigger diamond can solve?
To put it bluntly, this isn't your girlfriend's problem. Unless she misled you about her interest (or lack of) in hiking, you should have anticipated the problem.
You'll have to decide how important long distance hiking is to you and make some choices (or compromise).
Good luck.
Roland
Been there, done that.
Rule #1: Be true to yourself.
Rule #2: Keep looking and don't settle for less than you deserve.
If you want a partner who shares your hobby, keep doing your hobby and you will find her.
I found mine - she hikes, camps, and is learning flyfishing too. We are out all the time.
Don't give up. DON'T SETTLE!
I feel your pain. Boo-Boo's right-baby steps.
I have the very same issue. I am married though so not much I can do other than support each other. I spent money on a pack and gear for her and the kid. Yet have they went with me well the kid has but she does not like being without mommy. So I am a one man band when it comes to hiking. She is very supportive about my interest anyway. I have even been asked at times Don't you have some where you can go hike? I tell her just wait I will be gone for months soon enough.
I don't think you should give up on her could be the best person ever to come in your life.
I don't know
true. I found that works for me. She sees it as a vacation. Shopping at the mall ... yada yada yada.
Ummm !!! Yeah .... like what was I thinking anyway.
Getting lost is a way to find yourself.
I agree with Jesse and Johnnybgood and Indwlkr. Be resolved that you aren't going to change her. Just figure, as long as she doesn't give you grief about your hiking passion, things will be fine. Their loss!!
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