Originally Posted by
Lemni Skate
I always wanted to be a head football coach at a high school. I was good assistant and j.v. coach (46 wins, 4 losses over 5 seasons). I was applying for jobs and felt I would soon have one, when my daughter was born. As soon as I held her, I became torn about my dream to be a head football coach. I knew it would take a lot of time away from my family, not a big deal when my wife and I were both pursuing our career dreams, but suddenly a little one made a lot of difference. I was talking about those feelings with my father and he said a sentence that changed my life, "When you get to be my age, you'll never regret any time you spent with your kids." My priorities changed. I quit coaching altogether for a good long while and really spent time raising my kids (my son, believe it or not, has never shown any interest in playing football). When my daughter turned 11 I found out she could run forever (maybe because she was in shape from so much hiking) and fast. To make a long story, short: I'm the CROSS COUNTRY coach at my high school and I've turned the program around. I've very happy with what I do and proud of myself, too. On Friday nights, I watch the football games and sometimes silently tell myself how much better I would have been as the head coach than the guys out there, but I really have no regrets. I've got 16 and 13 year old kids for whom I could fill up a post listing their accomplishments, but the main thing is, I have been there for everything for them. They adore me almost as much as I adore them and they both WANT TO THRU HIKE with Dad in eight more years when I retire. I really don't expect them to be able to do the hike with me, I know at 24 and 21 they'll be starting careers, getting married and whatever else, but just knowing they'd like to and MAYBE one or both of them can (or at least do some) and it's not going to be something I chose for them makes me feel good.
My suggestion, spend this time taking the little guy on some shorter backpacking trips (heck three miles out and set up camp is fine) and make sure he has a blast. Turn over rocks in the streams and look for crawdads, fly fish a little, make some smores, tell some stories, whatever. In five or six years, if you've made great memories like that it's possible he'll be begging you to take him on a thru.