Originally Posted by
laner
Obviously he'll be changed - him through-hiking the AT and me staying home has been the hardest thing we've been through in our relatively short (1 1/2 year) relationship, and definitely the hardest thing he's ever done. He seems very distant from me, and we've talked about it, but there are no good answers, so I've come to think it as just "is what it is" when we're in such different places emotionally and physically. We've basically had to put the relationship on hold. He keeps telling me "nothing's changed" [in our relationship], but I just can't believe that's true! I've changed - he's changed - what's not to say our relationship has, or will, change?
Any experiences with returning (either yourself or your partner or someone you know) you can share? I've nearly called it off several times just because I was scared and impatient, and our relationship was getting so off-balance. But I WANT to see this through for him, and I'm sure I will since he has less than 4 weeks left before I see him at the finish. I've tried to be the good girlfriend supporting him the best I can because I know it's what he wants/needs (and in the end what's good for him is also good for me), but I almost reached my limit of patience and understanding many many times. I've felt neglected, not listened to, and unappreciated, and those are tough emotions to grapple with when you're trying to be a good, giving, supportive person.
If you're through-hiked, do you generally want to change EVERYTHING about your life, or do you feel like that for awhile, and then settle into something more like a compromise between the 'pre-trail' you and the 'post-trail' you? Also, when you're back with people, physically, do you feel more connected to them, or has that also changed for good, in general?